The current parental stress index in Hong Kong is very high. Not to mention the stress difficulties faced by autistic parents. One of the following parent who has a son with autism – Du Wenhui, radio host, encourages parents with autism to maintain a positive attitude towards their children with autism.
Radio show host Du Wenhui (Ada) and actor Chen Jinhong’s son Chen Jiahua was diagnosed with autism since childhood. In the third grade, she knew what was guessing, but Ada didn’t worry about it: “Some things you think autistic children won’t I know, but they won’t understand it all the time. There must be some time to know, just a little late…”
Entering the world of children, seeing his “happy definition”
Everyone has their own way of happiness! Du Wenhui recalled that when she learned that her son Jia Hua had autism, she was horrified. Immediately, Google turned over the books and investigated the information, and went to the “passers” to explore. The husband who had few friends and did not like to communicate with others on weekdays played a calming agent. Role, the two couples began to calmly understand autism, calmly face.
After expert training and parents accompanying around the clock, Jia Hua will go to the 5th grade in mainstream schools, and like other children, he will “tie” and “adjacent” with adults. Ada recalled that his son was going to school and would not play with other children, but he was very happy to run around with food bags. At that moment, Ada understood that children should live a good life, not necessarily better than others, find themselves. The “happy equation” is more important.
For example, her children may learn to guess when they are 1 or 2 years old, but their son will not know until the third grade, and they will slow down than others. If they see others go out, even if they know that they will lose, he will cut out because he thinks It’s more fun to lose. “Parents are most happy not because he is obedient, but because he knows his own decisions.” Ada stressed that parents should try their best to let their children try, pick a class or do something in the future, and don’t put too much pressure on them. The children’s reading review was also the same. The original couple had done a warm-up experiment in the second grade of their son, and found that their son’s experience of reviewing and not studying was almost the same.
Now before each exam, my son will not go to the library but the swimming pool. The water will be “discharged”. When you are tired, you will go to bed early. You will be greeted by the test without the pressure of others when you are in class.
I am happy to see the child “rebel” continue to work under pressure
As a special need for children, the mother is really hard, it takes a lot of time and effort, but it does not have to spend 24 hours with her children. Ada said: “Going out can also be a decompression method, you can forget the pressure, with colleagues. Chatting a few words and saying something other than parents will be very happy.”
Therefore, before having the right parenting method, parents must use a positive and optimistic attitude, and do not give excessive pressure to the child, so as not to be self-defeating.
Full article can be found at: TopicHK
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